At the beginning of the summer our family took a little vacation to California. Before leaving, my husband and I set some rules for this vacation. Phones were to be put away while in the car, and should only be checked for a short period of time each day once we reached our destination. I don't think you will even need to ask why this rule was made; but just in case....the phones were ALWAYS in use! This rule went for my husband and I as well.
Our rule, when heard, was poo pooed by most but we stuck to our guns. The end result was a wonderful vacation. A vacation where we spent time with one another making eye contact and talking. A vacation where our kids were super pleasant (this hadn't been the case during previous weeks) and we completely enjoyed every minute.
I share this story because this applies to most things in life. Are we getting a balance of everything? Or, are we letting one thing rule the majority of our time? Do we exercise a ton and not let our bodies recover? Do we work really late hours and neglect relationships? We really can apply this to everything.
When I was studying to become a health coach I studied constantly. Every day I would study for a few hours plus work on the business side of things. One would think that all that studying and work would be fine. That I would get so much more done and be more prepared for tests etc. The reality? I just got overwhelmed and felt ornery! I had to take a step back and realize I could still get everything done without it taking over every minute of each day. After all, I still needed down time, time to exercise and just get the everyday items finished. I decided to set aside one day each week to study and spend the morning really digging in. I also would use that day doing anything business related. What a difference! I felt like I still had a life. My stress level went down because I was living a more well rounded life. I felt happier and when I feel happier - everyone else is too.
Sometimes, more of one thing is just that...Just more! Our kids would put off homework because they were buried in their phone constantly. They were snappy and irritable. I was stressed and feeling crazy when I let homework and business take over every day. It's hard to step back sometimes and readjust our mindset. However, what kind of benefits could we receive if we were to plan a little better, scale down and just, well....breathe.
We continue to not allow phones in the car with our kids. We end up talking more and I have seen a change in our relationships. I also have kept just one day for work which leaves me time to unwind and enjoy hobbies that I was missing. It's beautiful!
As you look at your own life, is there anything that is just TOO MUCH for you? Take a peek and see what you discover.
Until next time,
Wife, mom and Health Coach. Lover of life and learning. (and my dog Steve)